Managing your ANGER..

A very wrong heading to the blog...

I didn't want to use this as heading but still human mind is like that - say when i say DON'T THINK OF A MONKEY, your mind has to FIRST think a monkey and then has to erase it from the mind to NOT THINK of it. Right?

Human mind is like that. It doesn't like anger. Do you like being angry? No. But still we always don't want to get rid of it but we want to MANAGE it.. Managing something you don't want is stupidity. Right.

Human understanding of their emotions are very limited and by the time a human comprehends any situation the action had been done and the reaction has been received from the surroundings. You will never be able to identify whether you have done an action or just reacted to a situation. Its true for all the actions, say your anger, your sadness, etc. except for Love. Only when a person is in pure state of love, he/she can see the action. It will flow from within. Rest all the actions will be a mere reaction to the surroundings.

When something unlikely happen against your set of expectations created by your mind, you tend to become angry or sad. These are the two immediate possibilities you have. Either you throw your emotion of unlikeliness of the situation/event that has happened just now, to the other people or thing around you as Anger, or you throw that unlikeliness of the situation/event to yourself and become Sad.

Both way you will be hurt. First case, you will be hurt after sometime, that you have hurt other people around you. Second case, you will continue to be hurt coz you are sad.

Only way to get across this is, you have to watch yourself when ever you are in the brink of breaking down. - Am going to break down. What is the reason? Why it is going to happen? What is that i WANT to happen and has not happened?

This WANTING a situation to happen is the root cause of the misery. You WANT something to happen and something else gets happened. Now who is to be blamed for the situation that happened? If at all you had been strong enough to create the situation in the way you WANTed then you will be satisfied. But, isn't it the fact that its YOUR incapability that has led to the failure of your expectations? When you take the responsibility of a failure of your expectation or your WANT, and if you are brilliant enough to handle yourself, then you will not be angry on others, or on yourself or become sad.

You will just SEE that the event has happened and it just did not happen the way you WANTed. So what, I will do it again. You must be able to SEE that the EVENT is HAPPENED. ITS OVER. Now just by expressing your anger on other person or becoming sad means - you have not come out of the situation. THAT EVENT IS NOT OVER IN YOUR MIND. You are still living in the PAST. You STILL carry your dead thoughts. If you are smart enough, you must have the consciousness that the event is over. Now this is next moment. I don't have to react for some dead event.

A smart person doesn't carry dead corpses. He is done with it. He just drops them once they are dead. - RIGHT?


Accepted that there are situations out of your control. But just understand that the time frame, that when you react - say become angry or sad, you can get into that state only after AT LEAST a moment, the event is over. YOU CAN ONLY REACT TO THAT DEAD SITUATION. All your emotions like ANGER, SADNESS are JUST REACTIONS to a finished situation. Only thing to cross it over is - YOU HAVE TO WATCH THAT THE MOMENT IS OVER.

NOW IS NEW MOMENT.

You must be able to say - I DON'T WANT TO LOSE THIS NEW MOMENT BY THINKING ABOUT THE OLD MOMENT.

I DON'T WANT TO LOSE MY LIFE BY THINKING ABOUT THE PAST. Its over. Its dead.

If you are able to see every action as an event- then you will never REACT in your life. Life is to act. Not just a mere reactions to everything around you. There may be many inputs from people, things around you. A WISE man acts. Never reacts. Coz He/She lives in NOW. Past and future are just illusions created by the mind.

NOW IS THE TRUTH.
NOW IS THE LIFE.

LIVE HERE, NOW.